What was the hardest thing for you to learn in life?
I would say the hardest thing I've had to learn, and I'm still learning... is that I am human, I can make mistakes. I get very upset at myself when I do something wrong, or it turns out to be the wrong choice. I expect myself to be perfect, I can't seem accept myself at times for who I am. I'm better then I used to be. When I was in college I HAD to get A's.. I wore myself out, I would stay up all night to study. If I messed up (and got a B) I would feel like a complete failure. Perfection is not something I even NEED to reach. So that was very hard to learn, just being myself and happy in my own skin.
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We have a few new participants. Wishing a warm welcome to:
Melissa aka beachmellissa3 at: A BEACH GIRLS DREAMS
Gina aka Motoxmom72 at: No More Appetite for Destruction
Katiegrace16 at: Step by Step
17 comments:
That it doesn't last forever, and some people are ripped away way too soon...when you are younger, you just don't think of those things, you know??
Robyn :)
Thats an easy one for me. The hardest lesson I learned was that I, and I alone was responsable for my actions. When I was a young man I spent my time blaming everybody else. It was always their fault and never mine. And because I had a lousy childhood, I used that for an excuse as to why I acted cruely towards people. BUT one day I just woke up and realized that, sure life had dealt me a
rotten hand when I was a kid. But was I going to spend the rest of my life whinning about it and expecting everyone else to walk on egg shells around me.
Or was I going to grow up, face the issues, and start working on improving myself instead of blaming others. Thankfully I decided to do something about the only thing we really have control over. And that is ourselves.
Sometimes bad things do happen to us. And we can always get justice.
So we just have to swallow that bitter pill and accept what happened and move on.
and stop expecting others to keep enabling us.
Whew! Loaded question today! I'm still learning some things. I would have to say the hardest lesson is that you can't make people like and/or love you. No amount of phone calls or letters or anything like that is going to make someone like you even more. This goes for friends and love interests. The other thing is that sometimes, there simply isn't any "closure" and that "I'm Sorry" are two words with great meaning. Sheila - who will probably continue to think about this the rest of the day.
Great question - here are my answers ~ Lori
Here's mine! ~Colleen :)
http://journals.aol.com/demandnlilchit/LifeasIliveit/entries/965
Actually my answer relates to yours!
One of the hardest lessons that I have learned in life is that no matter how hard you work and how you try to stay honest and be yourself someone is always going to put you down. And the hard part is realizing that as long as you have tried your best and haven't done anything wrong there is nothing else that you can do.
I watched George Lopez's comedy routine and at the end of the stint he told the parents in the crowd to encourage your children to dream because he said nobody encouraged him and thought he would end up to no good! Look at him now - he has a TV show.
One of the inspirational quotes that I read (and still sticks in my mind) is that the devil uses frustration, distractions and obstacles to help us lose our focus.
Rose
http://journals.aol.com/roseb44170/RosesJournal
my hardest lesson to learn is to put all the stuff in my past,and not let it control me,Its one i still struggle with and have to be carefull not to let it take over....
Learning its ok not to hurt your self to feel better.I knwo that may not make scence but for a long time cutting my self was the only answer to evrey thing,thank god I learned other ways.
i had to learn to dill with myfamily they abuse me aii my life. they have nothing to with me every cense i was born. i was sex abuse by my famley and every thing. guit school when i was 18 years old now i am 23years old and doing good i got a grat boyfrend and we have are own place toghter. and i work and i have dilexie and i an try to get my ged. but i have some prople in math do you no any turors that dill with dilxie. but any way i had to take causel over it.but i am doing good crystal
Hi everyone and thanks for the welcome. My responce to this is at http://journals.aol.com/katiegrace16/StepbyStep/. Again, thanks for the welcome.
The hardest thing I had to learn, and I'm still learning, is that life isn't always fair. I want to think that people will weigh all their options, look to see who it is that they're affecting and why. I don't do that all the time, I have no idea why I would expect others to. I am finally realizing that every person on this earth has those days when they can be real jerks. I hate to think I can, but I have in the past.
Jude
http://journals.aol.com/JMoranCoyle/MyWay
I think the hardest thing in life that I have had to "learn" actually I am still learning is that people as a whole are judgmental and prejudice and no not towards color but towards each other in general and they don't even have to "know" you to decide you don't "fit in" or your not their type they just make this generalized assumption because the fact is they live in a tiny box and cannot see outside the perimeteres of said box so only them and the contents that they have "approved" are in this box, the rest of us don't matter. I have always had a hard time with this view because I know that I am no better nor worse than anyone else, I have always recognized that there will always be someone smarter, richer, prettier, thinner, you pick the adj. here than me so I have never been in the position to think myself better than anyone. I feel all people have a story to tell and a right to be heard and they deserve my respect and friendship until something happens worthy of losing it. I can honestly say that I have friends from all different walks of life and I am proud of that and them and I pray that I never live within the perimeters of any box and that I always remain open to all people and use my own personal judgment as to when maybe I shouldn't be so open to someone and not rely on a general consensus based on the opinion of one closed minded individual. I am a rarity and this is what has been the hardest thing for me to learn. Brandy
well i am in the process of learning this at the moment, and i will tell you it sucks, but i know in my heart it will be okay in the end. i am learning to detach and let go- learning to be honest and live authentically instead of looking for others to blame, numbing myself in food, relationships or whatever "drug" im craving. being willing to admit my mistakes, let go of the past, and stand up for what i believe in. believing in my heart that i am beautiful and special and worthy of being loved and accepted just as i am. confronting untruths from others, not making excuses for them and realizing i cant fix anybody but myself. learning that decisions dont have to be made in an instant and that i own my life- nobody else, and i have a right to live it the way i want to and make the mistakes as well as the successes i chose to make. that i have a right to stop the path im on and chose to start over clean and fresh and healthy and whole, redeemed in the only eyes that really count- GOD's. and that i cant do any of that without His help and thru His grace. i am actually really glad for all the rotten shitty things that have come my way in the last few years, because for the first time i feel like i am growing up, reclaiming my soul and independence. thank you to those who have guided me on my way!!
How to relax and not take myself so damn seriously....
HARDEST THING TO LEARN IS THE CHOICES I MAKE NOW EFFECT MY LIFE LATER ON FOR EVERY ACTION THERES A REACTION.....NOT ALWAYS EASY TO REMEMBER
http://journals.aol.com/unicornsteph80/Welcometomylife/entries/390
Accepting change.
Lori
http://journals.aol.com/helmswondermom/LorisJournalJar/entries/399
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