Question 119 ~ anger

What is the angriest you have ever been and how did you resolve it?

Geez it takes a lot to make me angry in the last few years. Hurt yes... angry for a moment then I realize life it too short to hang on to the anger. However, in the last few months someone (who I will call JJ as I will probably mention his name a lot) has made my life a living hell. 

First in Dec when a friend of mine got a new cell phone account he added me on there as a second number so that when I'm driving my broken down car (which I'll get into in a bit) if I break down I will be able to always contact someone.  Well JJ asked to please be added stating he would pay his share of the bill 1/3 and whatever he downloads etc... promising not to go over as we split the minutes three ways.  Okay so my friend said fine... however about two months into the contract we notice $355 in download charges ... ring tones, caller tunes and games.  When we spoke to JJ about this he said "I can't have access to that as I guess I'm not responsible enough for it" so we were going to turn that part of his plan off.  However, within a few days he said "I no longer want the phone"  So he returned it (yes I made him sign a paper of all he was responsible for and that he needed to pay it before the bill was due) Nope he didn't pay it.  The night he was to return the phone he downloaded MORE stuff.. now he knew he was to return the phone so we could return it (it didn't cost anything WITH a 2 year contract) but if we canceled his contract it would cost us $238.00... so he returns the phone in really bad shape ... so we now owe not only the early termination fee, his bill but also for the phone.  He also didn't return the charger or any of the things that came with the phone.  If he had returned the phone in good shape and with the stuff we may have been able to get someone to take that phone over and pay each month.  Thus not having a termination fee.  But he still would owe us the rest of the money.

Now about the car, I allowed this same person to borrow it and he smashed it up .. saying first someone hit it in a parking lot. When I told him to call the police he said "no they will think I did it" I argued with him then he said "well I really hit a dumpster"  I find out about a month ago he hit a parked car.  The damage is pretty sever and the repair on it is higher then what the car's blue book value is. 

The car wasn't the best car so I figured if he would just pay what he owes on the cell bill I would just chalk up the car as my fault for being too trusting and allowing him to use it. He told us he would pay the bill when he got his taxes.  The last time I talked to him he said "I'll pay when I judge tells me to"  I AM anger about this.  As his bill was so high I couldn't pay it, my friend can't pay it.. so our phones were shut off and my car dies all the time. 

How am I resolving this, well I'm taking him to court.  I have IMs from him admitting to owing the money, I have a screen shot of his my space admitting to the accident.  And the signed agreement.  I think I will win.  And that is how I am trying to stay calm about it.  When I drive down the road and he drives by he points and laughs.  I just bite my lip... keep BOTH hands on the wheel tightly so I don't flip him off. 

I think this is the most mad I've been since most things I can be angry for a day or so and let them go.  This is a hard one to get over.  I believe in karma and that the other person who really screwed me over will get hers someday (since I can't find her to even ask for my stuff back) I try NOT to think of her.... I also think of that as a lesson learned.  Not to just trust everyone that comes into my life.  I hate that as I AM a trusting person but sometimes someone that is so trusting gets kicked down too many times and needs to close that door!
              

Okay how about you... Either leave your answer in the comment section or your own journal but link back so we can see your angriest moments! ;)

 

I'd also like to welcome back Stephine who used to participate but now has a new screen name and is starting over. 
Welcome back Stephine! You can visit her journal jar at:Stephanie's Journal Jar

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Question 118 ~ Siblings

Tell something special about each of your brothers and sisters:

Well I have four brothers and two sisters.... only one sister is from the same mom and dad. (Also a step brother and sister which I  won't write about my step sister and brother since I hardly knew them as they lived in New York) I have sort of a mixed up family.  Two of my brothers are from a different dad/same mom.. and the other two are from a different dad but same mom.  My other sister is from same dad/different mom.  Now I consider them all my true siblings.  I don't like "half brother" step sister stuff like that.  Family is family be it total blood line or by marriage.. so here goes. (this will probably be a longest entry I've made here)

The oldest brother E: He died a few years ago due to complications during surgery.  He moved away from our family and lived pretty far up north.  So I didn't get to spend much time with him towards the end of his life.  He was my hero, always understanding always defending me. We seemed to always know what the other was feeling before words were ever spoken. Sometimes when something would be going awful in my life he would call and say "what's wrong"  We once said we were the black sheep of our family.  True in a way.  We loved each other very much... there are still days I pick up the phone to call him... only to remember and hang it up.  I love and miss you E.. forever in my heart RIP

Then there is my brother B.  He grew up with his mother but spent a lot of time with us. We lost touch for many years, then one day I was visiting Frankie's dad at a treatment center and there was my brother.... oddly enough he had been the one that always answered the phone when I called there and him and I (not yet knowing who we were) would talk longer then I would take to Frankie's dad.  He said he felt a connection.  Well there sure was.  He was a typical big brother... no one was good enough for his baby sister and he let everyone know that.  He had a hard fight with his addiction.. and I know he tried very hard.  Last time I spoke with him he had walked out of rehab and I haven't heard from him since.

My brother K... he is an inspiration to me.  He owns his own business and works night and day to keep that thing going.  He waiting until he was in his 30's to get married (which always seemed odd to us since he had a few girlfriends that seemed perfect for him) however talking to him just the other day he said he waited to get married because he married for life.  He treats his wife with respect and shows her love and support no matter what she wants to do.  He is a very good husband.  We haven't always been close.. we sort of have our on and off again relationship. He has at times step up to my oldest brother's role... like when we were playing games at Christmas and I would make a stupid guess or the worse pictionary my word was California and I drew Florida (now in my defense my friend guessed it right) I said "omg I'm so stupid" My brother actually gets upset when I say stuff like that.  He always tells me I do not give myself enough credit and I am smarter then I believe.  He fights ME about ME! Gotta love a guy like that.

The youngest of my brothers R.  I knew him very little he was sort of the problem child.  Born and raised by my father's first wife.  He got into drugs and I was not allowed to be around him.  He got clean about 6 years ago, got married and had a baby.  He turned from a heroin addict into a happy, healthy loving family man.  For that I am so proud of him.  I haven't spoke with him for a long time either... I know he's doing well, but he sort of needed to escape his family (his mom) to better himself. I miss him but I am glad he's doing well.

My sister G: She was a beautiful woman.  She had a baby when she was young (I was very young) She was smart, funny, so alive.  I have so many funny memories of her.  She died in a motorcycle accident shortly after she had her baby. I was 7 years old. When she was 16 I believe, she got a half of a heart on her wrist, she made me promise I would get the other half when I was old enough.  I did... recently I had it covered in a way you can still she the half of heart (as I will always be the other half of her heart and her mine) but I got tired of people asking "what's the J stand for" or "is that a fish hook?"  So there is a unicorn there now. She's still with me... the heart stands out and the unicorn to me means magic and that is what my sister was magic.  She would light up a room, make a sad girl laugh (me).  Everyone she came in contact with she brightened their lives.  I love you Gloria! RIP

Now we get to my older sister P.  She is my best friend.  She is the holder of my secrets as I am hers. She doesn't judge people, her heart, mind and door are always open to everyone.  She is a very giving and caring person.  She teaches me by example.. shows me how to be a better person.  Helps me when my mother is driving me crazy... I've always looked up to her (she once told me she looks up to me) so I guess we feel the same about each other.  We had a tough childhood but together we made it through.  I lean on her.. she leans back.. I think we hold one another up.  She's the only person on this earth I trust 100%. Her kids are my kids.. my kids are hers.  Love you HonE! ;)

Well that's about all I think my siblings are all very special.  Some close to me, some gone now... but they all made me who I am today.. I give them credit for always being by my side... for always knowing the right things to say when no words can really  comfort. ... So to all of you Thank you for being great brothers and sisters... Yes I'm the baby of the family!

      

Okay you know how this goes, either write your answer here or in your own journals but make sure you link back so we can read your answers too.  (I will try to be more consistent with this but so much personal stuff has been going on)

Lastly:

to Christy who is new to the journal jar.  Check out her journal jar at: Christy's Journal Jar I hope you enjoy this as much as I and many others have! And thanks Kelly for bringing her to us! :)

Tags: Siblings, Journal Jar question

Question 117

Where would you like to live the most?

Wonderful question for me right now... since I am so sick of the snow piled up past my windows.  I'm sick of driving on ice covered roads.  And I miss a few people that moved to AZ that are still trying to get me to go there.

So AZ is where I would like to live the most. Not just because of the warmth.. sunshine.. no snow.  But because of K and B who I love dearly.  I am hoping to move there before they get married.  (fingers crossed)

 

You know how this goes.. leave your answer in the comment section or in your own journal and link it here.

(I'm trying to keep this journal going)

Question 116

Tell about the conditions surrounding your birth that you are aware of. How were you named?

Well my mother doesn't talk much about my birth.  For reason I do not wish public.  I know that I was almost delivered at home.  We lived up in Duluth MN, and I was born in Feb.  There had been a pretty bad snow storm and the ambulance couldn't seem to get through and down our road as it wasn't plowed yet.  Guess it was a good thing I wasn't in a big hurry to "get out".  That's really about the only story I heard of my birth.

As far as my name.  My father (bio) wanted me to be named after his mother (Mary) my mother hardly ever stood up to him but she did that day and not that Mary is a rotten name I wouldn't have been thrilled with it .. maybe because I wasn't that close to that grandmother.  In fact I wasn't allowed to call her grandma (no one was) we could only call her by her first name as she said she was too young to be a grandmother.  hmmm. Anyway so I really don't know how my mother picked my name or the spelling (as it is different) she said she wanted me to be different YAY MOM! Love having to always spell my first name for people and the responses "that's an odd way of spelling it"  Or the best one was in school when a teacher told me I spelled my name wrong on a paper.

 

If you wish to answer this question you can do it in the comment section or your own journal... be sure to link back.

Tags: your birth story, journal jar question